Dowry is the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband in marriage. In India, it has been a tradition from pre-historic times. Maharajas (kings) use to give huge piece of land, jewels etc to their daughter before sending them to husband’s home. This continued and over the course of time every member of the society had to pay dowry during the marriage. In 1961, law was passed where dowry was prohibited but it still was practiced through-out India. Dowry was one of the reasons for female infanticide. People started saying it was due to lack of education, dowry and dowry deaths were happening, but we have horrifying facts below.
Check out the above facts & other shocking figures in the video below:
Education and Good jobs are used as one of the reason for demanding more dowry! And the dowry rates are huge if you are working in an MNC. Here are some of the details, which we collected from our sources:
And this is not the end. Even after the dowry is paid, there are constant demands. These demands are mixed with sentiments:
And sometimes it’s some XYZ excuse to get money from the girl’s family.
While we understand dowry demands from the rural people (illiteracy), but Techies? They are using their education and Job as an EXTRA qualification to ask for dowry, no, more dowry! While they boast of meeting international people, doing great jobs and getting big fat package, they continue to demand dowry in one way of the other. What if you not demand dowry directly, you parents might say we need this and that for the guests, we want marriage at this big place and whatever you give is for your daughter. These are just another way of asking MONEY. Some argue they have given money for their daughter’s marriage and now they want to compensate by demanding dowry for their son. What Bullshit!
I have a recent case of a girl working with us, who recounts her experience with these GROOM-Sellers:
This girl works in a software company and is 27 years old. She is from a middle class family and has one more sister and a brother. She says her father, a Government employee, has worked very hard to get her and her brother/sister the best of education. She is the topper in Masters of Computer Application Degree and earning a fairly decent salary. Her father has approached more than 100s of families and in most of the cases the talks end with demand for dowry. Some says RS. 1 million, some asks for Gold, Silver, Properties and some even setting up a house for them to live. And 95% of the families they have approached are from well to do background and son earning a good fat package with big software company. Her father is broke now; he regrets why he didn’t save for the dowry. SHAME!
But my question is WHY SHOULD HE GIVE DOWRY! Isn’t the girl educated as well. Hasn’t the girl’s father spent thousands (and out of reach money) to get her daughter educated! Then why should be pay dowry? And I m sure this will not be the end. After marriage as demands increases, the dowry demand will continue. As per reports, the people paying dowry continue to pay something or the other throughout the life. Its shame that education, position and status are used as an extra catalyst for demanding HUGE DOWRY!
And Mr. Techie you! Your parents might have old thinking, what about you? Can’t you say NO! Can’t you feel that this money is not your MONEY! Doesn’t your conscience SAY NO. And remember you techie, this money will never bring joy in your life, it has tears of the parents of the girl. It will just bring misfortune!
While reports says more than 25% CVs are fake and more than 70% of the techies are UNEMPLOYABLE, its shame that they use their DEGREES and APPOINTMENT LETTERS to increase their value in the MARRIAGE MARKET! I also blame the girl’s parents for paying Dowry! What if you can afford, you are supporting an ill-cause in the society. And if you cannot afford you go to the extent of taking LOAN and paying the dowry. As stated above 80% of the people asking for dowry keep their demands throughout the life and many leads to Dowry deaths. It’s better to keep daughters at home than to throw them in front of HUNGRY DEMONS, who will make your daughter’s life hell and ultimately you will hear about her unfortunate death. Dowry death people go unharmed due to lack of evidence or money power. So we cannot rely on the law to help eradicate this. Instead we should bring these GREEDY TECHIES in front of all. Companies hiring these techies should blacklist them from the industry so that this disease can be removed from the society.
Finally, we are the fastest growing economy in the world. Have faith in yourself. Do not demand or supply dowry! Bring out the culprits who are misusing their degrees and position for dowry so that we can expose them and create awareness. Remember if you support dowry, you are equally wrong! Girls, do not let your parents support such cause, remember you are equally worthy in the society and money cannot measure your worth.
And you’ve asked me personally. My parents wanted a daughter in my wife as they themselves had lost their daughter of young age. we were too much of an idealist to even refuse gifts given voluntarily by girls. Unfortunately we were taught a lesson the hard way by my wife. (Its alltogether a different matter that after initial hiccups its she who is at the receiving end after we decided to fight back)
I would not have brought my story but i was asked.
Also my story should be a lesson for young males who try to be idealist. My motto is demand huge dowry and take everything in cash with no video or audio evidence.
Dear Rips,
Tum gayi nahin abhi tak?
There are loads and loads of girls waiting to get married to a well earning guy, so the world should not be worried about us.
Show me one case where a girl married an unemployed guy (and the chances of getting a fabulous job in near future were low)?
Actually, marriages in India are a trade of a man’s salary and a woman’s looks. With time, men realised that they can get beauty without marriage, and women realised that they can not get 50% of a man’s salary without getting married to him.
Hence, women are still desperate to get married, and entice guys with all their charms and their parent’s money
“ones who will bring cash would like to AASH and will make u Joru ka Ghulam” actually its the other way round. since they have already brought cash the girl and most importantly her parents would like to protect the marriage since it would be an investment gone waste.
on the other hand girls not bringing any money can easily leave if differences arise.
thats y i have changed my thoughts. BE SAFE THAN SORRY.
demand huge dowry and that too in cash with no video or audio evidence.
Dear Rahul
There are high chances that u will be implicated in a false dowry case (with your father, mother and sister). No matter u take it or not. and the girls who talk here that they were rejected because of dowry must have been rejected for other reasons. they cant digest that.
I dont say that u take dowry but u should definately follow some precautions before u marry an indian girl, particularly the TECHIE girl…for details contact me at kctripathi2417@rediffmail.com
Krishna – who is propagating violence on women? Yes the girls will have to marry the unemployed if the employed techies are so greedy and justify their demands for dowry! Phir soch lo you will marry u all – only the ones who can give dowry and the ones who will bring cash would like to AASH and will make u Joru ka Ghulam.. Soch lo
Dear Rips,
As far as age is concerned, I would not be surprised if you are the youngest here, so let us not say who is young and who is old.
About Gyanesh’s sister or daughter – she will not get rejected because of gifts if they will look for an alliance within their ‘aukat’, and not look for an MNC manager for a housewife.
We shall all wait for you to be back from your break. (I hope your boyfriend is not jealous).
And I shall still be waiting for the money transferred from your account and his account.
I shall still be waiting for you to define dowry for me, since Google tells me that dowry is a bogus word.
I shall still be waiting for you to tell me how many girls do you know who got married to someone earning less than her.
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some give in majboori and some afford to give
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What majboori?? just step down a bit and marry an unemployed graduate. Whats the majboori??? The unemployed fellow will definately marry. U all curse the dowry and at the same time will not marry the unemployed. There are lacs of unemployed graduates, even post graduates, roaming and noone ever goes to them for marriage!!! and then the parents of the girl talk about “majboori”!!!!
YES THESE GIRLS WHO DONT WISH TO MARRY THE UNEMPLOYED, NO MATTER HOW DECENT THEY ARE, DESERVE THE DEMAND FOR DOWRY.
and please read in full before passing me as a perpetrator of violence on women. We hate all forms of violence and torture for anything.
Krishna
Gyanesh, do you have a daughter or a sister? When you spend months and years looking for a match and when u get rejected on the lines that you cannot bring money/gifts to them you will feel the pain! Seems like you guys are too young to know the facts or you want to purposely undercast my point!
I am still firm on the fact that its SHAME techies demand DOWRY!
I have to take a break here, but will reply in next few hrs. So have ur say guys! Dun stop coz I m not stopping till I make everyone accept my point
Dear Krishna,
I am a novice in matters of law, but I understand from your posts (and Virag’s and Gyanesh’s and Gokul’s) that I would face false dowry charges only when I do not take dowry.
Also Gyanesh’s point is logical, from where will I get the money to bribe the police and judiciary if I am falsely implicated.
I never thought I will take dowry but the last 2 days have made me in 2 minds
Those who demand have not put the revolver around girl’s parents neck. Why do they give is my question. Can you explain the majboori part.
And dont skirt my question. I agreed with you. Do you agree that giving dowry to get a rich guy is a shame.
“Marriages are above money unless you all have redefined the meaning”. Thats for the greedy people (boys and girls both) to understand. I did not say a techie in general. Working girls tend to find a partner who is earning more than herself. Its not bakwaas. Ask any damn person aroung you. Compare the salaries of couple at the time of marriage.
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Why do girls and their parents wants to get a better boy who is handsome and has no bad habits and have a huge salary at any cost ? Are boys earning less than you not people ? Give it a thought.
Make a group and Pledge that you will not give dowry or marry someone who asks for dowry and also pledge if your marriage fails you will no file a false dowry case and demand money from your in-laws or you will not file for alimony or maintenance. Make a pledge that you will not watch all the saash-bahu serials in TV and think this is real live instead go to a slum and watch how couples live there. The less money you have the more happier you will be and understand this.
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This is what i (Rahul and virag and ananth included) have been trying to convey. see my posts on maintenance. Why ribs, u said that u wanted to say this?? but now that u dont find any argument and find a softer response than ours, u comit that u were trying to convery the same!! you say
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I might have not portrayed my idea well
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after so many deliberations and mud-slunging on males and their mothers, u are saying u have not expressed yourself well!!!
Please do not write anything on dowry law misuse… It is my sincere request … and yes… if ever your brother or mother gets accused in a false case do call us…
Dear Rips, that is what Gyanesh is trying to say, why is the topic DOWRY DEMANDS, why is the topic not something like – Parents of ugly handicapped girls entice high paying techies using dowry?
Gyanesh the topic is DOWRY DEMANDS by techies. Your topic is Dowry given by girl’s parent.. some give in majboori and some afford to give.. But WHY DO TECHIES or as a matter of fact any one demand DOWRY!
Regartding your next claim – no girl would marry… thats bakwaas.. the life cycle changes in matter of days my friend, tomorrow may the hi-fi techie will be out of market, does that mean girl should leave that guy? Marriages are above money unless you all have redefined the meaning!
You say “but techies demanding them is a shame”. I cannot agree with you more. And the girl’s parents giving dowry to get techies is an equal shame. Do you agree with me???
Hence “Dowry by Techies! Shameful act still prevalent in the Indian Society” == “Dowry given by girl’s parents to get Techies! Shameful act still prevalent in the Indian Society”
You must agree with this also.
And yes no girl would marry a guy equal or less earning than herself. Any thoughts about this also.
Dear Rips,
Girls should also not marry guys who demand dowry! No one ever objected to that.
My primary concern is that dowry is a bogus word. Dowry does not exist as portrayed in the articles like yours. Monetary exchange might take place at the time of marriage but that is purely because handicapped girls want to get handsome earning guys.
About lesser the money the more happier you are, you and your boyfriend can kindly send all your savings to my bank account. I would love to make you happier.
your article is down and out. more than half say its useless. it is always easy to say “dowry is a menace” but it is difficult to see the real picture. but please dont write on misuse of dowry law as i requested above. see your views
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“Now i know why false dowry cases! People like you demand dowry and after bringing dowry the girl definitely would like to have the XTRA respect, just like you men have extra ego when you bring more salary. And when these girls do not get the respect probably some of them might file false dowry harassment case, again based on whatever my friends have written before. So you know why false dowry cases?
God, never knew we can find a solution to another problem by arguing on this topic. Try that Rahul, I m sure you will never be into False Dowry case!â€
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with these views we dont think u r responsible enough to write on that topic.
We are against all tortures. but we hate when people create false panic in society.
Krishna
Bharath, I echo your voice.
Guys this is what i want. I might have not portrayed my idea well, but Bharath has further explained it very well.
And you are right? Girls should also not marry guys who demand dowry! But phir Rahul, Ananth ka kya hoga?
These lines are best written-
The less money you have the more happier you will be and understand this.
Thanks Bharath!
Dear Rips,
You think only comments supporting your false claims are intelligent comments?
Yesterday also you said that this discussion is not getting anywhere when people started to oppose your views.
As you would have noticed, all the so called women who were supporting you have realised their misconceptions and have stopped to argue
Girls or Women if your mind has matured,
Rather than cribbing about the dowry don’t give any dowry and say to your parents that you don’t marry if dowry or gifts are exchanged.
Only go for a person who does not demand dowry from you and probably earning less than you and then try to treat that person as equal to you then there will be no dowry.
Why do girls and their parents wants to get a better boy who is handsome and has no bad habits and have a huge salary at any cost ? Are boys earning less than you not people ? Give it a thought.
Make a group and Pledge that you will not give dowry or marry someone who asks for dowry and also pledge if your marriage fails you will no file a false dowry case and demand money from your in-laws or you will not file for alimony or maintenance. Make a pledge that you will not watch all the saash-bahu serials in TV and think this is real live instead go to a slum and watch how couples live there. The less money you have the more happier you will be and understand this.
regards, Bharath.
Gyanesh, try to understand my topic. Dowry is accepted by other professionals as well, but techies demanding them is a shame. That’s why the title. My boyfriend is a techie as well and I have no personal grudge against any techie or techies in general.
Anyways, i have made my point loud and clear. Seems like people want to take out “BAAL ka KHaal”.. I would like some more intelligent comments on this article.