Dowry is the money, goods, or estate that a woman brings to her husband in marriage. In India, it has been a tradition from pre-historic times. Maharajas (kings) use to give huge piece of land, jewels etc to their daughter before sending them to husband’s home. This continued and over the course of time every member of the society had to pay dowry during the marriage. In 1961, law was passed where dowry was prohibited but it still was practiced through-out India. Dowry was one of the reasons for female infanticide. People started saying it was due to lack of education, dowry and dowry deaths were happening, but we have horrifying facts below.

  • Shocking figures : Dowry demand once in every seventy seven minitues in India.
  • Preeti Pal from UP alleges that an Sports Minister  demands 50 Lakhs(50 Million) to get married to his son.

Check out the above facts & other shocking figures in the video below:

Education and Good jobs are used as one of the reason for demanding more dowry! And the dowry rates are huge if you are working in an MNC. Here are some of the details, which we collected from our sources:

  1. An Engineer from Bihar University now working in Bangalore has got more than 2 Acres of land as dowry.
  2. Dowry rate of the techie increased 3 times as soon as he got a Job in a leading IT Solution provider company. He however postponed the marriage as there were chances of him going to US. And that would increase his rate by almost double!
  3. A techie doing well in an MNC got offer from another company. He took the letter the other company to come back to his present employer to ask for more raise. On receiving the raise, he went back to the new company again to get his package increased. Why all this? So that he can demand more dowries from the prospective bride family!
  4. A newly MBBS passed doctor asks for 2.5 million Indian rupees as he has to open his clinic. Boy’s parents argue that they have already spent so much in his studies and its up to the girl’s parents to help the boy as this will only benefit the GIRL.

And this is not the end. Even after the dowry is paid, there are constant demands. These demands are mixed with sentiments:

  • The boy needs a laptop so that he can work from home and spend more time with the girl
  • They need a new house so that it’s near to the office.
  • The boy needs to start his business, which will help the girl to get some more money

And sometimes it’s some XYZ excuse to get money from the girl’s family.

While we understand dowry demands from the rural people (illiteracy), but Techies? They are using their education and Job as an EXTRA qualification to ask for dowry, no, more dowry! While they boast of meeting international people, doing great jobs and getting big fat package, they continue to demand dowry in one way of the other. What if you not demand dowry directly, you parents might say we need this and that for the guests, we want marriage at this big place and whatever you give is for your daughter. These are just another way of asking MONEY. Some argue they have given money for their daughter’s marriage and now they want to compensate by demanding dowry for their son. What Bullshit!

I have a recent case of a girl working with us, who recounts her experience with these GROOM-Sellers:

This girl works in a software company and is 27 years old. She is from a middle class family and has one more sister and a brother. She says her father, a Government employee, has worked very hard to get her and her brother/sister the best of education. She is the topper in Masters of Computer Application Degree and earning a fairly decent salary. Her father has approached more than 100s of families and in most of the cases the talks end with demand for dowry. Some says RS. 1 million, some asks for Gold, Silver, Properties and some even setting up a house for them to live. And 95% of the families they have approached are from well to do background and son earning a good fat package with big software company. Her father is broke now; he regrets why he didn’t save for the dowry. SHAME!

But my question is WHY SHOULD HE GIVE DOWRY! Isn’t the girl educated as well. Hasn’t the girl’s father spent thousands (and out of reach money) to get her daughter educated! Then why should be pay dowry? And I m sure this will not be the end. After marriage as demands increases, the dowry demand will continue. As per reports, the people paying dowry continue to pay something or the other throughout the life. Its shame that education, position and status are used as an extra catalyst for demanding HUGE DOWRY!

And Mr. Techie you! Your parents might have old thinking, what about you? Can’t you say NO! Can’t you feel that this money is not your MONEY! Doesn’t your conscience SAY NO. And remember you techie, this money will never bring joy in your life, it has tears of the parents of the girl. It will just bring misfortune!

While reports says more than 25% CVs are fake and more than 70% of the techies are UNEMPLOYABLE, its shame that they use their DEGREES and APPOINTMENT LETTERS to increase their value in the MARRIAGE MARKET! I also blame the girl’s parents for paying Dowry! What if you can afford, you are supporting an ill-cause in the society. And if you cannot afford you go to the extent of taking LOAN and paying the dowry. As stated above 80% of the people asking for dowry keep their demands throughout the life and many leads to Dowry deaths. It’s better to keep daughters at home than to throw them in front of HUNGRY DEMONS, who will make your daughter’s life hell and ultimately you will hear about her unfortunate death. Dowry death people go unharmed due to lack of evidence or money power. So we cannot rely on the law to help eradicate this. Instead we should bring these GREEDY TECHIES in front of all. Companies hiring these techies should blacklist them from the industry so that this disease can be removed from the society.

Finally, we are the fastest growing economy in the world. Have faith in yourself. Do not demand or supply dowry! Bring out the culprits who are misusing their degrees and position for dowry so that we can expose them and create awareness. Remember if you support dowry, you are equally wrong! Girls, do not let your parents support such cause, remember you are equally worthy in the society and money cannot measure your worth.

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